Relinquish Control

Why is it that it’s so hard to put yourself out there in any realm of society? Dating, working, creative expression, all different societies that revolve around the necessity of presenting ourselves authentically and vulnerably. Something that should be so effortless for us to do has been rendered to be something that requires effort in an attempt to be liked. Dating, whether on Tinder, creating the perfect profile that will be able to catch the attention of a dream partner, or in person having to present ourselves as the best version of ourselves to our crush in order to win validation. Working, perfecting our resumes and interview outfits to make ourselves desirable. Creative expression, making art that seems to satisfy trends and modernity in order to be relevant. When in reality, who we truly are, without all the fluff, should be good enough. Today and everyday is a dedication to the statement, “I only want what wants me.”

We limit ourselves when we put the pressure of expectations on our shoulders. Being fearful of rejection is simply restricting our journey towards growth, to which I have learned this past year. Growing up, people were quick to judge and make fun of the things that made me true to who I am, which made me retract and reel in my differences to fit in- how boring! Acceptance of yourself is imperative to fully allow yourself to attract those who will accept you. 2022 has helped me open my eyes to just be me, if I don’t get the job, if the date doesn’t go well, if people don’t like my art or what I have to say, then so be it! I relinquish control and allow myself to just be in 2023 and I hope to motivate others to shed the skin that others have put on them.

Xoxo,

Emilia